3 Must-Do’s When Hosting a Bridesmaid’s Luncheon

Hosting a bridesmaids’ luncheon is an honor of those closest to the bride. Typically aunts or mothers of the bride’s friends will host it, but anyone can play host. The level of formality can range from a casual lunch to a formal tea, and it just depends on what the host and bride’s preferences are. If you are hosting, be sure to check with the bride to make sure you have the same expectations and desires. No matter what your style preference is, this should truly be about the bride. If you prefer a more formal setting but the bride is more comfortable in a small, relaxed setting then you should plan a small, relaxed gathering. This is the bride’s special day after all.

Many bridal luncheons take place the wedding day or day before the wedding, and while a luncheon is traditional, you can choose to have a brunch or tea instead. The bride might choose to give out her gift to the bridal party here, and you have special stations for the girls where they write letters to the bride or sign her shoes. You can keep the guest list as small or large as you want…just be sure to check with the bride on her preferences. Obviously, you will need to have the bride, her mother, and the bridesmaids, but feel free to also include the grandmothers, aunts, cousins, mentors, close friends, and groom’s side of the family too.

Serve the Bride’s Favorite Foods.

Even though the term is “bridesmaids’ luncheon,” this event is all about the bride. Plan to serve the bride’s favorite foods including drinks and even restaurant items. For a surprise, you could ask the groom or bride’s mother what the bride loves. Make the effort to go the extra mile, and this will be a special time that your bride will always remember. Since the bride and bridesmaids will be rushed this weekend, you could give a little goody bag filled with items like mints, energy bars, and water bottles to make the wedding day as stress free as possible.

Keep to the Wedding Schedule.

The bridesmaids’ luncheon is a lovely time for the bride and those closest to her, but it should not be the focal point of the wedding. Make sure you plan with the bride to accommodate the time schedule, and do your part to stick to it. If the only time that fits is the day before the wedding, be gracious and have the bridesmaids’ luncheon then. If the bride only has an hour in the schedule on the day of the wedding, plan the luncheon for that specific time. If you plan a bridesmaids’ luncheon that goes 2 hours over, it will throw everything else off schedule and stress the bride out.

Remember the Details.

The bride will only have one bridesmaids’ luncheon, and you should definitely make it count. If all you can manage is a simple gathering with easy food, the bride will still be touched by your efforts. However, take the initiative and time to plan something meaningful to the bride. She will remember this weekend forever, and you will want to play your part in making her wedding the best it can be. Perhaps, you could display pictures of the bride growing up or have someone designated just to take pictures.


No matter how basic or formal your event is or what food you serve or when the bridesmaids’ luncheon is, the bride will be touched that you put the time and money in to make her special day extra special. She will appreciate the effort and remember this day always!

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