3 Common Misconceptions About Attending Couples Therapy

3 Common Misconceptions About Attending Couples Therapy
When many couples start to have problems in their relationship, they are often able to talk them out and solve the problems on their own. However, for others whose issues may be complex, the answer is attending couples therapy. Seen as a safe and effective way for each person to discuss their problems with their partner, it has proven to be very effective for many people over the years. Yet despite this, there are still a number of misconceptions couples have about attending this type of therapy session. If you and your partner are having problems with your relationship and have heard many stories about couples therapy, here are three common misconceptions that have been perpetuated over the years.

Couples Therapy has a Low Success Rate 
While one of the biggest misconceptions about couples therapy has been that it has a very low rate of success, nothing could be more wrong. As it is with any type of therapy, not all couples who choose this path will ultimately find success. However, most couples far more often are able to solve their relationship problems and stay together due to attending these therapy sessions. According to researchers, one of the reasons for this misconception has been that many couples may choose a therapist who is not specifically trained to provide counseling to couples. To make this type of therapy as effective as possible, experts suggest always selecting a therapist who is trained and certified in Emotionally-Focused Therapy, which is a common therapy used with couples. Additional details about EFT and other related aspects can be found here.

Therapy Goes On Indefinitely 
Along with thinking this type of therapy has a very low success rate, many couples also balk at attending these sessions because they have the misconception that the therapy itself will go on indefinitely, perhaps for several years. Again, this is simply not the case. In fact, no type of therapy usually extends for an indefinite period of time, but instead is brought to a conclusion by a skilled therapist is usually no more than one year. In the case of couples therapy, most experts feel that the typical couple can resolve most problems and strengthen their relationship within three to six months. However, since no two couples are alike and no two sets of problems are exactly alike, the time it can take to see results can vary. For example, if a couple is having problems related to marital infidelity or other complex issues involving a betrayal of trust, the time it may take to resolve the problem could be extended. Yet no matter what the problem may be, no competent therapist is going to have a couple in therapy that has no end in sight. To learn more about how long couples typically stay in therapy, visit here.

One Person is Blamed for All the Problems 
Of all the reasons why couples often hesitate to attend these therapy sessions, perhaps the biggest is that one spouse is under the assumption that they will be blamed for all the problems the couple is experiencing. Again, this is simply not the way therapy sessions work. In most cases, unless there is a blatant and proven history of abuse or neglect, a skilled couples therapist will examine the role each person has played in arriving at their current issues. In most instances, both partners have exhibited certain behaviors or other actions that have contributed to the problem, and are made to realize that in order for the problem to be resolved, behaviors and thinking must change in both individuals. In fact, even in situations where one partner has been involved in an extramarital affair, the therapist will not simply blame that person for all the problems. Instead, behavior patterns of both partners will be examined and discussed, in the hope, a resolution can be reached.

While it is ultimately up to each person in a relationship to make the changes needed to have long-term success, a skilled therapist can often help with making significant changes in a short period of time. Rather than continue suffering from your current problems, consider giving couples therapy a try.

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